Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Say it isn't so!

Vera Venom is making noises about ceasing, quitting writing, because the whole backstabbing feminist thing is getting to her.

I understand her point. It is why I choose not to participate in such discussions, because strife causes pain, and I am opposed to pain.

Howver, Vera has a terrific voice. She writes well, she's interesting, and even though I don't agree with much of what she says, I always enjoy it. She's civil in an arena where civility has taken a back seat to inflammation.

Isn't that what it's about, getting alternative opinions, learning other folks' perspective and respecting their story?

The only problem I have with Vera is that she's on Wordpress. Wordpress dislikes me, and I dislike it. I try to logon, after jumping through their silly little hoops, and still Wordpress growls at me and spits sunflower seed husks on my shoes. How rude.

So Vera, if you're reading this, I will respect your decision should you choose to turn your attention elsewhere, but I won't like it.

14 comments:

Kim said...

I'm WAY behind on my blog news. I'll have to stop over at Vera's later on.
But Rootie, just wanted to tell you thanks for your comments over the last few days.
It helps :)

Vera Venom said...

(((Rootie)))

Well, you can visit me here: http://mytangledmess.blogspot.com/ (when I get started, that is).

It's a knitting/various crafts blog.

I think I'm done with feminist blogging. I went in naively believing that the various camps did want to mend the rifts and try to make some improvements together and whoooo hooo! was I wrong. Which sucks because I love to discuss things with people - especially those who have an alternate opinion. I firmly believe that there is common ground to be found with almost anyone and that anyone can be lifted, changed or improved by such contact. However, I've realized lately that within the feminist blogiverse (though not just the feminist blogiverse by any stretch of the imagination) far too many people just want to be offended, especially when it results in silecing another's opinon. All of the time. It makes me tired and apathetic.

So, I'm turning my blogging attention to something that actually makes me happy - knitting (mostly for charity).

This doesn't mean I'm no longer a feminist or an activist, this is just about focusing on those things where they actually have some validity and reward - which is in real life. There is power in the interent, however it seems to be well utilized by the big feminist blogs. There seems little need for small ones like mine. Though, that doesn't mean I'll stop commenting on other feminist blogs though.

Most of all - thanks for the kind words. I sincerely appreciate that. Even if you do disagree with me all the time. *jk* ;)

Trinity said...

Vera, I'm rapidly starting to feel similarly. I'm really enjoying posting things like discussions and pictures for Cassandras female desire week. But I'm not enjoying the interminable feminist arguments. I'm wondering if my blogging is feminist at all anymore. I'm starting to think it's not. Strangely, I'm not sure this upsets me. I'm beginning to think feminism is much more about doing than talking.

Word verification: bgoingzz

Rootietoot said...

Well, so long as y'all keep up here. You know me- controversy is to be ignored.

Vera- I don't know how to knit, but I can do other stuff.

Vera Venom said...

Correction that new blog will be at: http://atangledmess.wordpress.com/

I tried bloggers templates and like wordpress better.

But, Rootie - we need to figure out how to get you access.

And I'm totally all for learning new stuff. I'd love to learn to make soap, candles, and cook of course.

I'm always looking for new things to learn.


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Trinity - this: "I'm beginning to think feminism is much more about doing than talking."

Is where I'm at. I realized i was getting annoyed by this and then finally the light bulb popped on. Talking about this stuff is only useful if it inspires action. My real world feminism is what's real.

fracas said...

"The only problem I have with Vera is that she's on Wordpress. Wordpress dislikes me, and I dislike it. I try to logon, after jumping through their silly little hoops, and still Wordpress growls at me and spits sunflower seed husks on my shoes. How rude."

Rootie, you don't need to be logged in to comment just because it's Wordpress, it's because she has her blog set up so that you have to be logged in to comment. My blog is on Wordpress and I don't have it set up that way. Often I don't log in to my own account at Wordpress and I'm still able to hop around other WP blogs and comment freely so I'm confused about what's happening to you.

Could you tell more?

Did you actually sign up for a WP account and you still have trouble signing in? Before you changed your blog's priviledges, I couldn't comment unless I logged in to the blogger account I created just to comment at your blog. Is it only Vera's blog you have trouble at or do you have trouble at mine too? I've never heard of anyone having trouble just commenting at a WP blog before so I'm incredibly interested in hearing more. I'll even pass it on to the WP techs because they're usually really good about fixing anything that's screwy. I love them guys, they rock.

Rootietoot said...

Vera if you'd get a blogspot like a normal person this wouldn't be an issue.

Trinity said...

Rootie, I didn't mean I was leaving. I just mean that my blog seems to be going back to what it was before, which was mainly about SM and personal stuff. I actually like that better. It's much less depressing, and much more about me and what I like.

Well, I don't plan on talking less about disabilities of any time soon. Then again, that doesn't depress me in the same way. While a lot of the news is bad, people aren't picking each other apart over it, the way they do in feminist circles. it's not about personal preferences, or what we think other people with disabilities are allowed to do. That's much kinder, and much less crazy making.

Rootietoot said...

Fracas- I got a WP account, and they gave me this silly temporary password that didn't work (I cut and pasted so I know it was right), and ever since they just laugh at me when I try to do anything more exciting than read.

Rootietoot said...

Trinity- less depressing is good. Feminist blogs have been rather taken over by a few strident voices, and I believe the best way to deal with them is to not deal with them at all.

donna said...

About the only feminist blog I still read is Twisty, because she's funny and she's always right. ;^)

Rootietoot said...

Oh Donna...(my word)um...can I fix you a chicken, dear? I do it for all my sick friends.

Vera venom said...

"I got a WP account, and they gave me this silly temporary password that didn't work (I cut and pasted so I know it was right), and ever since they just laugh at me when I try to do anything more exciting than read."

This happened to me a few times trying to sign up for wordpress. Apparently the 6th time is the charm.

Rootietoot said...

gaaaahhh. See, I have one username that's been mine wince I was born, and one password for such things so I can remember it. Wordpress asketh too much from me!